Joy Based Parenting: Fear or Love
Today, while talking with a friend, I realized how often when feeling my own fear and worry about my daughter, I am literally saying “I fear you”. Instead of telling her “I love you” I’m giving her the message that “who” she is and “how” she is causes fear in me. When I am in [...]
Focusing on Love
What we focus on is what we will see. When I find myself focusing on all the things my daughter is doing that I judge as negative, I often find even more. When I’m tired and down on myself, I can walk in the house and within 2 minutes see everything that she hasn’t put [...]
Love-Based Parenting Example 3
I work with struggling teens, and their parents at a company called Vive (www.vivenow.com). When a family enters, our program, the whole system is riddled with fear. Risky behaviors are involved which can activate deep fears in parents. Unfortunately, during these times, our children need us to be safe emotional containers more [...]
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