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Disaster! Crisis Alert! by Masha Blokh

Disaster! Crisis Alert! by Masha Blokh

Disaster! Crisis! Alert!

This is how my everyday life often feels to me. Say I’m already a couple of minutes late to a scheduled meeting, and as I step onto the front porch, I see a neighbor walking over to say “hi”. My brain yells: “Alert! Abort conversation immediately, or lateness may increase by a disastrous 30 seconds to a minute!” My blood pressure rises, my brain goes into fight or flight, and I truly feel as if I need to ward off an enemy or flee for my survival. I only relax when I arrive at the meeting, and the other person, as usual, is either totally fine with my lateness or is even more late themselves.

I have been practicing giving myself compassion instead of criticism for this degree of alarm. As a young child, I relied entirely on others, so getting scolded really did feel like a threat to my survival. And it’s understandable that a lot of that fearful thinking has carried over into my current life, however unproductive it may feel for me now as an adult.”

With two sensitive young children at home, sibling conflicts used to be a major source in triggering this kind of fight or flight energy. Tears, shouts and thumps would ring my alarm bells many times a day. Then a few months ago, I had a powerful experience of responding differently to a sibling conflict that has begun to change this pattern in our family. It was my son’s birthday, and I had bought a few boardgames for us to play together with his sister that day. I bought whatever looked good at our local second-hand store, and one of the games happened to be made by a company called The Peaceable Kingdom. According to the box it was designed to “inspire cooperation and cultivate kindness”…so it was no surprise when my son grabbed a token out of his sister’s hand and began to run around the room with it, laughing. She yelled in anger and frustration as she tried to get it back, and he yelled back, “Look mommy, isn’t it so funny when she’s so angry?” as he continued to dodge her and keep the token out of her reach.

Maybe because of the humorous irony of witnessing this war break out in the Peaceable Kingdom, I did not hear any alarm bells in that moment. Instead I felt a calm conviction that my daughter does not “need” that token back and my son does not “need” to learn a lesson. From my new felt vantage point I saw that what I can calmly offer them right now is to see, hear and understand my daughter’s distress, and to validate her feelings. Those feelings were intense, and yet there was no disaster or danger going on – just a lot of discomfort and intensity that was difficult for her to process in that moment. As I held and listened to my daughter, I connected to my own inner child, and to all those times that I was frustrated or thwarted as a kid. I saw that what would have supported me to process and move on from those events with my self-love and self-image intact was not for anyone to be punished or for the problem to be fixed. All I needed was to feel someone’s kindness and care towards my feelings, to hear someone gently saying: “Of course you feel that way. Of course you didn’t want that to happen.” What I needed was for someone to be my SafeSeat.

Since that event, something has changed in how I see sibling conflicts, and some of the emergency-urgency energy has dissipated. Since I can validate my kids’ feelings almost anytime, under any circumstances, it does not feel so urgent to resolve the conflict. With the sense of crisis removed, I’m not jumping into fight-or-flight right away, and I’m able to provide support and make space for a creative and collaborative solution that my kids often come up with on their own. (“OK, I can throw the balls that way so that it doesn’t break her tower.”) Or if safety is a concern I can step in to take one child to a different room. Whatever I decide to do, it is so much more effective when I don’t approach the conflict as a disaster.

When I do approach conflicts in an urgent way, I pit myself against reality. Then I feel trapped between the voice screaming in my head to fix everything and make it better, and my inability to control another person’s behavior. Pretty quickly I’m overwhelmed with a feeling of powerlessness, which I then try to avoid and push aside with a big dose of anger. Once I’m at that point, my inner wise adult is not available to support my children, and I join them in their distress and dysregulation until I take a time out for myself and spend some time in the SafeSeat. This comes with its own benefits for me and my children…and it is really nice when we can coast through a conflict without a 30-minute dysregulation fest.

So in a way, the Peaceable Kingdom game did “inspire collaboration and cultivate kindness” – it inspired my kindness towards myself and my children’s feelings, which makes space for them to resolve their conflicts through collaboration.

Masha is a Purejoy graduate from the class of 2021. She has mostly moved on from Guess Who to cushion fights with her son and setting up all the dinosaurs in a row along the piano keys with her daughter. She is now slightly favoring improv comedy classes over stand up open mics as a participant, though it’s still a toss up for which is more fun to watch.

 

Strategies for Parenting: Finding Peace Within

Strategies for Parenting: Finding Peace Within

Are you looking for new parenting strategies to get your kids to behave? I often come across this common theme when working with others, as well as in my own life. Rather than speaking as an expert, I believe that each individual is the expert of themselves. So, in Purejoy, my aim is to guide you and provide little sparks of inspiration for you to explore on your own. After all, I can’t have all the answers for your unique situation when I’m not there with you 24/7.

One common pattern I’ve noticed, which I experienced early on and have heard from many other parents, is that when we feel uncomfortable with our children’s behavior, we tend to seek external strategies to control their actions in order to find inner calm. We all desire a peaceful home, but what we truly seek is peace within ourselves so that we can navigate whatever arises in our home environment.

However, we often confuse this and believe that we must control the external factors. And when we inevitably fail to do so, we feel guilty and may lash out at our children, leading to a collapse in our own emotional state. One aspect of this collapse is the guilt that turns into self-aggression, as our attempts at control prove ineffective. At this point, we must confront the reality of our powerlessness over the external factors. But fear not, for there is a way out. The answer lies within.

We are constantly looking outside ourselves, but the truth is that our children’s behavior is not the root cause of our internal disturbances. When we feel disturbed, our minds start generating thoughts and strategies to regain control. We may think of consequences, punishments, or various techniques to manipulate the external environment and create a sense of peace. However, here’s a little secret: no matter what you do or say, even if you remain calm, your children can sense your true emotions and discomfort. It’s essential to understand this. They feel it, and when you project your discomfort onto them, they experience it as well and then act it out.

The most valuable lesson I’ve learned, and I encourage you to try it this week and see for yourself, is to recognize when I am disturbed. I used to experience frequent disturbances due to my beliefs and expectations about how things should be—for my child and myself as a mother. There were countless “shoulds” in my mind. Instead of meeting the present moment and acknowledging my disturbance, I would often externalize it. Many people come to this work seeking to turn inward, but they still find themselves searching for strategies.

When these strategies fail to bring about the desired change in their children’s behavior, they collapse and conclude that it doesn’t work. However, the real issue lies in the belief that your internal disturbance is solely caused by external factors. I’m not saying that the external doesn’t trigger your disturbance—it does. But that internal disturbance is often rooted in the fantasy of how you think things should be for you to feel safe and okay. I spent a significant portion of my life trying to create a calm and perfect external environment, which is an impossible task. So, when disruptive elements entered my life, such as my daughter’s behavior, I believed I had the power to change it. I would either exert control over her or blame myself for my perceived failure. Then, I would search for more strategies, as I needed her behavior to align with my expectations in order for me to feel inner peace.

In Purejoy, we recognize the challenge presented by our child’s behavior instead of trying to control, fix, or change it. We acknowledge the disturbance within ourselves and take it to our SafeSeat. If you haven’t already, I have a free copy of a five-day video series on the SafeSeat available on the website. When I refer to the Safeseat, that’s what I’m talking about. By sitting with the emotions that arise—typically feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, rejection, or abandonment—and offering kindness to these feelings, you can begin to separate yourself from them. You are not defined by your emotions. You possess the power to turn inward and be compassionate with yourself.

You may not have control over your child’s behavior, except when you resort to fear tactics. However, you can utilize the power you do have to turn inward and extend kindness to yourself. Remember, no matter what strategies you employ or what you say to your kids, your true emotions will be felt by them. So, let’s focus on you finding peace within yourself.

Relaxing into the Moment in Front of You

Relaxing into the Moment in Front of You

Parenting can often feel overwhelming, especially when there are so many tasks and responsibilities demanding your attention. As a parent, you may find yourself constantly trying to keep up with the never-ending needs of your children, the household chores, and the countless other obligations that come with the role. It’s no wonder that relaxation can seem like an elusive concept.

In the midst of this chaos, taking a moment to truly relax and be present with yourself and your children can feel like a luxury you can’t afford. The nagging feeling of always being behind, of constantly pushing and pulling to meet all the demands, can prevent you from fully embracing the present moment.

But what if you slowed down? What if you allowed yourself to experience what is driving this constant push? For many of us, it is an internal voice or a conditioned belief that tells us we need to have a perfectly clean house, keep up with endless tasks, and provide our children with the best of everything. We strive to meet these expectations, often at the expense of our own well-being and the true essence of parenting.

As you begin to recognize these external voices and expectations, you can start to question their validity. Are they truly yours? Do they align with your values and desires as a parent? By letting go of these imposed ideals and embracing your authentic self, you can find your own rhythm, wisdom, and capacity to be fully present in each moment.

Relaxation in parenting is not about neglecting your responsibilities or ignoring the needs of your children. It is about finding a balance between meeting those needs and nurturing the moment in front of you. It is about letting go of the constant pressure to keep up and instead, show up with kindness, love, and acceptance for yourself and your children.

So, how can you start to relax into the moment in front of you? It begins with awareness. Notice the internal voices that drive you to constantly strive for more. Whose voices are they? Where do they come from? Are they truly serving you and your family?

Challenge yourself to prioritize moments of relaxation and connection. Take a walk with your child instead of doing the laundry. Sit down with them and truly engage in play. Allow yourself to be fully present, free from the constant pressure to do more.

By embracing the present moment, you can create a deeper and more meaningful experience of motherhood or fatherhood. You can let go of the need to impress or meet external expectations, and instead, focus on being the parent you truly want to be. It is in these moments of presence and authenticity that the magic of parenting unfolds.

So, this week, give yourself permission to relax and meet the moment in front of you with an open heart. Slow down, tune in, and trust that everything will take care of itself. You deserve it, and so do your children.

Note: The content of this blog post is inspired by the “Parenting Paused” podcast episode on relaxation.

Unlocking the Doorway to Purejoy Parenting

Unlocking the Doorway to Purejoy Parenting

Imagine a world where you don’t take things so personally, where your interactions with your children are filled with understanding and respect rather than control. Today, I want to invite you on a journey through an unseen doorway that leads you to a deeper level of consciousness in parenting.

Picture this – there was once a time when everything about parenthood felt overwhelming. Every action or word from your child seemed like a personal attack or reflection of your own worthiness as a parent. You found yourself trapped within the confines of societal expectations and learned templates imprinted upon you since childhood.

 But here’s the thing – those limiting beliefs have no power over what lies beyond that invisible doorway into Purejoy parenting. It takes courage and curiosity to step through it, but oh boy is it worth it!

 Once inside this realm of expanded awareness, something magical happens; you begin exploring new possibilities for connecting with your little ones on levels previously unimagined. No longer do you rely solely on controlling techniques; instead, you discover internal strengths deep within yourself as a parent.

 Gone are the days when discipline means asserting dominance over your children’s behavior without taking your emotions into account fully. Instead, taking responsibility for your unprocessed emotions first becomes paramount.

 In my own experience (and trust me—I’ve been there), shifting towards Purejoy parenting has brought profound transformations both for myself and my relationship with my child(ren). Once I realized how much weight I had given external ideas around motherhood/fatherhood—ideas passed down from generation after generation—the paradigm shifted dramatically.

 From being caught up in notions about fitting perfectly into predetermined roles—I made space for authenticity rooted in acceptance.

 I started communicating not just verbally but also emotionally—a dance between hearts intertwines itself beautifully during shared moments.

 My connection grew stronger as I understand that my child was not a mere extensions of my heart but an individual on her unique journey.

 As Purejoy parents, we become responsible for co-creating an atmosphere where growth and love flourish. We accept accountability for our reactions to challenges while fostering a safe space where vulnerability is met with empathy and understanding.

 So here’s my gentle invitation: step through this doorway with me. Embrace the adventure of discovering your internal reservoirs of strength as a parent who consciously chooses connection over control. Let us embark together on this journey towards deeper consciousness in parenting!

 It isn’t always easy—nothing worthwhile ever is—but I promise you; it will be worth every ounce of effort invested because when you let go of personalizing everything, both beautiful opportunities and profound fulfillment emerge naturally.

 Remember: each step forward opens up new possibilities—the ones only accessible once you take responsibility for shaping your reality within the sacred bond between parent and child.

 Let’s walk this transformative road hand-in-hand—all those magical connections await!

Unraveling the Behavior Mystery

Unraveling the Behavior Mystery

Have you ever wondered why children behave in a certain way? It’s easy to get caught up in their actions and assume that those behaviors define who they are. But here’s the truth: behavior is just the tip of the iceberg! Let’s go on a journey together to uncover what truly drives your little ones’ actions.

Understanding with Empathy:

As parents, it can be so tempting to focus solely on correcting misbehaviors or using techniques as quick fixes. However, deep down inside each child lies a world of emotions waiting to be understood and acknowledged. Instead of judging your child based purely on their behavior, take a moment and remind yourself that good behavior doesn’t always mean everything is okay within them.

Peeling Back Layers:

Behaviors serve as signals – clues into your child’s emotional landscape. Just like plants need water and sunlight to grow beautifully above ground; similarly, kids require understanding beneath their surface-level actions. By digging deeper into their underlying feelings, that are driving the behavior, rather than simply addressing outward symptoms alone will enable you not only to connect better but also empower you in supporting them effectively.

The Power of Kindness:

When confronted by challenging behaviors from your child, responding with kindness should become second nature for every parent seeking connection over control. How do you do this when emotionally triggered? First, offer kindness to your own feelings that are driving your behavior. Treating yourself and your child compassionately while acknowledging the struggle creates an environment where love flourishes effortlessly between both parties involved – leading towards stronger bonds naturally!

Unlocking Your Strengths:

Embracing conscious parenting opens doors for personal growth beyond any technique or reactive approach could offer At Purejoy, we believe it’s about tapping into internal strengths such as empathy active listening resourcefulness adaptability & authenticity, especially towards yourself. As you embark upon this transformative journey alongside Purejoy , prepare yourself for mind-blowing insights guaranteed to provoke thoughtful reflection curiosity and empower you to become the best version of yourself – an aware loving parent.

Reminder:

Behavior is just a symptom – it’s not who your child truly is. By recognizing this, you’ll embark on an exciting adventure together: one where understanding their emotions takes center stage. You’ll embrace the power of kindness as you unlock your own strengths while nurturing deeper connections with your precious little ones.

Validating Your Own Experience

Validating Your Own Experience

Before diving headfirst into validating your child’s experience (which you already excel at), let’s take a moment to focus on something equally important – validating your own experiences. Yes, you need validation too!

 Imagine this… You wake up in the morning feeling overwhelmed by life’s challenges while juggling work deadlines, household chores, school projects—phew! It feels like you have 36 hours’ worth of tasks squeezed into just 24. Take another deep breath because here comes the magical part:

You are doing amazing!

 Yes! Just stop right now and bask in that truth; give yourself some well-deserved applause. As busy parents navigating through emotional storms every day with caring hearts tightly connected to those tiny humans who hold such immense importance in our lives—we often forget how remarkable we truly are.

 By acknowledging what makes you unique as an individual—the way you handle situations or find solutions—you start realizing these qualities also transfer over when connecting with your kids. It becomes crystal clear that empowering yourself isn’t about pouring endless knowledge from books onto parenthood—it’s about embracing who YOU genuinely are at heart.

 Think back for a moment… remember when time stood still during captivating storytelling sessions? Or maybe playing pretend games where laughter echoed through walls became unforgettable memories etched forever? These moments happened effortlessly because they were birthed from within you—from authentic love and joy rather than any external technique seeking control.

 Here’s the mind-blowing revelation: your secret weapon isn’t an instruction manual on perfect parenting; it’s embracing those unique aspects of yourself that open doors to stronger bonds and meaningful connections.

 Imagine diving into this incredible journey where, together, we explore conscious parenting from a fresh perspective. A world where traditional techniques take a backseat as you uncover hidden treasures within yourself—nurturing compassion, patience, and understanding like never before.

 It’s time to let go of self-doubt and embrace your own innocence!

 Turn inward to offer yourself all the kindness and love you offer your sweet kiddos!

Discrimination in Parenting

Discrimination in Parenting

As parents, we all want what is best for our children. We want them to succeed, be happy, and grow up to be well-adjusted adults. However, our desire to help our children can sometimes be clouded by our own discomfort or anxiety. This is where discrimination in parenting comes in.

 At Purejoy, we believe in the power of discrimination. Discrimination requires the practice of recognizing when you are present and fully engaged in the current moment, or projecting into the future or past. When you practice discrimination, the first step is to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment to see if they are relevant to the moment. Then you can make conscious decisions about how you respond to your children where they actually are in the present.

 One key aspect of discrimination in parenting is understanding where your desire to help your children is coming from. Are you offering help because you genuinely want to support them, or because you are uncomfortable with how they are doing something? By practicing discrimination, you become more aware of your own emotions and motivations, and make better decisions about how to support your children instead of helping them out of feeling helpless.

 Another important aspect of discrimination in parenting is recognizing if you are fully present with your children, or if you are trying to parent for the future. In today’s busy world, it can be easy to get caught up in your own thoughts and distractions about how you should be as a parent for your child to be successful in the future. However, when you are fully present with your children, you can connect with them on a deeper level and build stronger relationships.

 At Purejoy, we believe that discrimination in parenting can have a profound impact on both parents and children. By practicing discrimination, you can become more aware of your emotions and motivations, and make conscious decisions about how to support your children. This can lead to happier, healthier families and stronger relationships.

 So, if you are a parent who wants to support your child in reaching their full potential, consider incorporating discrimination into your parenting practice. By being present, aware, and non-judgmental, you can create a safe and supportive environment for you and your child to grow and thrive.

Unlocking the Relational Power Within: The Essential Competency Every Parent Needs

Unlocking the Relational Power Within: The Essential Competency Every Parent Needs

Do you ever feel like being a parent is equivalent to juggling 36 different things at once? I hear you! Between taking care of your little ones, managing household chores and errands, and keeping up with work or other commitments – life can get pretty hectic. But fear not! I’m here to introduce you to a game-changing superpower that will transform your parenting journey.

Introducing… drumroll relationality – yes, that’s right! Relationality is more than just some fancy buzzword; it’s an essential competency every parent needs in their arsenal. Now don’t worry if this term seems new to you because by the end of this blog post, we’ll unpack its incredible power together.

So what exactly is relationality? Well mamas, it goes beyond simply being “nice” or having good communication skills (although those are important too!). At its core, relationality means developing attunement skills so that when your child hits those moments of emotional dysregulation (cue flashbacks), instead of getting caught up in chaos yourself – bam! -you’re able to meet them where they are with love and understanding.

Imagine creating an atmosphere filled with safety and connection for both yourself and your precious munchkin(s). With strong attunement skills under your belt as part of mastering relationality, handling challenging situations becomes less daunting while building trust between yourselves skyrockets!

Now let me break down how embracing relationality unlocks hidden treasures within:

  1. Awake Presence:

Picture yourself radiating warmth even during difficult times—those tiny eyes look upon you knowing deep inside “I am safe.” By allowing space for their emotions while holding steady ground yourself (SafeSeat), you nurture emotional well-being and forge stronger bonds.

  1. Empathic Relating:

Relationality primes you to become the ultimate empathic mama , sensing what your little ones experience even before they can verbalize it. By acknowledging their feelings and validating them, you’ll be amazed at how deeply connected your family becomes.

  1. Mirror Magic:

Witnessing that adorable toothless grin when your child mimics exactly what you do? That’s mirror magic right there! Through relationality, attuning yourself empowers you to role model healthy behavior patterns; paving the way for harmonious interactions within homes filled with joy and laughter.

  1. Side by side Support:

When life feels tough (think temper tantrums or sibling squabbles 😅), relational parents like yourselves have a secret weapon: co-regulation skills! You’re able to guide your children through challenging moments by staying grounded yourself – supporting everyone in finding calm amidst chaos.

So dear busy but incredible parents out there remember this: developing strong attunement skills as part of mastering relationality is not just some soft skill —it’s an essential competency every parent needs in their toolkit.

Ready to embark on this mind-blowing journey towards unlocking more love-filled connections with those precious hearts under your care? Stay curious, embrace new insights along the way—and watch as purejoy wonders unfold before you!

 

 

The Power of Self-kindness in Parenting

The Power of Self-kindness in Parenting

 

Welcome to a blog that’s all about celebrating the joyous journey we call parenting. Purejoy! Today, let’s dive deep into an empowering concept that might just revolutionize your relationship with your little ones. So sit back, relax (if you can), and get ready for some mind-blowing insights on turning inward as parents.

Life as a busy parent is like strapping yourself into one of those roller coasters where emotions run wild and caring never stops – it truly takes superhuman strength! But sometimes, amidst the chaos and demands of everyday life, you tend to forget something crucial – your own well-being and how critical this is to your child’s well-being.

Picture this: you’ve had another long day juggling work deadlines while trying not to burn dinner when suddenly… BAM! Your child throws yet another tantrum over bedtime routine or refuses veggies with Olympic-level determination. It’s too easy for frustration or doubt to creep in; after all, aren’t we supposed to have control over these situations?

But here’s where things get juicy… what if instead of focusing solely on controlling their behavior from the outside-in (cough mission impossible cough) – cue drumroll please – you started looking within? Mind blown!

Embracing self-kindness doesn’t mean throwing discipline out the window or becoming permissive jellyfish parents—far from it! Rather than relying solely on techniques and external fixes though (because let’s face it—they rarely last long), why not tap into your internal resources to strengthen connections with your precious vulnerable self?

Seriously folks—it changes everything!

It starts by acknowledging that every emotion experienced by yourself AND your children deserves compassion—even during epic meltdowns at grocery stores—or even worse—in front row seats at Grandma Betty’s tea party.

When was the last time you gave yourself permission NOT TO BE PERFECT? Let’s face it, none of us are. You are a perfectly, imperfect human being with emotions and your little sidekicks follow suit. Instead of chastising yourself for not having all the answers or feeling overwhelmed at times (it happens to all 36 hours a day parents), how about extending the same love you shower upon your children toward yourself.

By learning the Purejoy SafeSeat process you’ll learn to direct some much-needed self-kindness inwardly, which amazingly support miracles unfolding externally: relationships transform, bonds strengthen like never before, and walls built on control crumble down into heaps of joyful giggles.

So how do you get started on this amazing journey towards mindful parenting nirvana?

First things first—download the free SafeSeat video series and then muster up your courage to embrace imperfection. It’s time to wave goodbye to guilt trips about missed soccer practices or forgotten lunch boxes; instead use those moments as opportunities for growth—for both you AND your child!

Next up—weave in a simple act of kindness towards yourself that bring joy back into the equation!

If you Need Help Ask for It

Example: Our culture as a whole, values independence and self-reliance over community and compassion. If you’ve learned to take pride in being self-reliant and capable. It can feel awful to be needy!  (isn’t that what you are judging in your kids?)

If you learned as a child feeling needy was dangerous, it’s gonna be challenging to ask for help without feeling shame. You may have repressed your neediness to survive in your family but it didn’t go anywhere. I’ve learned that asking for help is an act of kindness to the younger part of me that had to take on way too much too early.

Start slow and be ready for feelings to arise each time you ask for help.

PRACTICE

  • Ask for help at least once a day
  • If you hear NO quickly move to your SafeSeat
  • Do the practice and offer kindness to the needy one in you.

Above everything else though remember—the greatest gift lies within YOU. Embrace yourself wholeheartedly—you’ve got what it takes! Reach out because Purejoy is here right alongside – cheering you on every single day!

Now imagine—a world where kindness leads by example…where empathetic connectedness reigns supreme…and hugs become stronger than any superhero cape ever could be…

Are you ready to embark on this extraordinary journey yet?

Here’s my hand—I’m standing beside yours throughout each twist and turn along the way… Are you reaching out?

 

I Want it My Way

I Want it My Way

 

Asking my daughter to do something, I noticed a strong reaction inside when she said she didn’t feel like doing it. Heat rose in my body, and I heard my inner voice saying, “I knew she wasn’t going to do that…she never does anything I want her to do.” In that moment, I felt my love for my daughter disintegrate, and I desperately wanted to cut out my high regard for her.

It’s challenging to confront our conditioned beliefs, especially when they are deeply rooted in our subconscious. As a parent, it’s natural to want your children to follow your instructions, but what happens when they don’t? Does it trigger feelings of powerlessness and frustration?

For me, it did. I had based my conscious parenting on the belief that saying “no” when you wanted to say “no” was the best course of action. However, I realized, in that moment when I heard no, that I had fallen back into the conditioned belief that others are responsible for my happiness. This realization, even though familiar is always a turning point from moving outward to inward.

As I examined my beliefs and behaviors, I discovered that the key to transforming my relationship with my daughter was to come back home, to take full responsibility for my own emotional responses. Instead of reacting to her behavior, I learned to be with my emotions in a new way in my SafeSeat, the foundational practice of Purejoy. This shift in perspective allowed me to approach the situation from a place of love and understanding, rather than frustration and anger.

This experience taught me that the work we do on ourselves has a ripple effect on those around us. By taking responsibility for our own emotional responses, we become better equipped to handle challenging situations with grace and compassion. We learn to approach others from a place of love and understanding, rather than judgment and frustration.

It’s not always easy to confront your conditioned beliefs, but it’s necessary if you want to live a fulfilling life. By examining your beliefs and behaviors, you are able to transform your relationships with yourself and those around you. You are able to learn to approach life from a place of love and understanding, rather than fear and judgment.

In addition to transforming your relationships with others, taking responsibility for your emotional responses also has a positive impact on your mental and emotional wellbeing. When you are able to approach challenging situations with grace and compassion, you reduce your stress levels and improve your overall sense of happiness and fulfillment.

This is why it’s essential to learn how to work with your emotional triggers. As humans, we all have emotional triggers from our childhood that are hard-wired into our brains. These triggers can cause us to react in ways that are not in our best interest, both personally and professionally.

The good news is that emotional triggers are workable, and you can learn to manage them in a way that supports your wellbeing. Download the free SafeSeat video series to begin your journey.

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