LESLIE POTTERA Mama for The Mamas
Who I am…
If you are feeling shameful, guilty, and tired of beating yourself up for failing as an “attachment parent” you are in the right place.
I’m not your typical parent coach who is going to teach you how to control your child’s behavior so you feel “good” about yourself in the eyes of others. I’m going to challenge you, question you and show you the way to create the joyful home you desire. I do this with kindness, tenderness and plenty of tools to support you in uncovering your intuition to parent the way you desire instead of listening to others.
I’m a parent like you who also has a background as a psychotherapist and spiritual inquirer. I am obsessed with discovering the truth and tirelessly question any conditioned belief that puts a barrier between my heart and my child’s.
My life’s work is sharing with parents how to shift their controlling fear-based relationships with their children to a loving enjoyable reality.
At the age of 44, I found the courage to become a mom. Growing up in a very challenging relationship, with my mom, created an intense anxiety about becoming a parent. Even though I had a heartfelt desire to “be” different with my daughter, I found my parental modeling was all I had available in times of stress. When I was faced with so-called “negative” behavior I instantly felt the urge to parent the way I was parented. Through my determination and desire to “feel” better I began to explore being with myself, in relationship with my daughter, in a new way. I experienced when she was distressed, instead of being there for her, I acted as if she was causing my discomfort. I needed her to “behave” so I could be seen as the wonderful mother I wanted to be. Over and over, I saw how instead of maturely responding to my daughter, in her time of need, I asked her to be the mature one.
During the process of questioning my beliefs and supporting other parents in exploring theirs, I created Purejoy Parenting. With my background as a psychotherapist, working with families, it was a natural transition to use a coaching model. After years of having deep insight into my patterns, through psychotherapy, I found through the coaching model, I was able to offer more “in the moment” support in real-time situations. I created the parent coach model for a national company, Vive (www.vivenow.com), supporting parents with at-risk teens, working with over 1000 families to reach higher ground.
The greatest gift you can give your children is you. After trying every behavioral technique I realized my daughter’s undesirable behavior had a lot to do with mine. While trying to control and manage her behavior, so I could relax and be the loving parent I wanted to be, I came to a deep and profound understanding that my child was responding to my state of being. When I took ownership of my feelings she began to relax and open. This began a long and exquisite journey to realizing I have the power within me to accept and love all of me. This allowed me to love all aspects of my daughter. The door of love flew open and our relationship flourished.
If you’ve spent countless time and money trying to “fix” your child and are looking for another way try PUREJOY. After sitting with many parents and helping them shift into a “joy- based” model of parenting I have witnessed amazing transformations in their home. Shifting the focus off controlling your child’s negative behavior to working with how you react to their behavior allows you to see all expressions as sacred. As you relax, owning all parts of yourself, you can accept and enjoy your child instead of punishing, consequencing or controlling them. I invite you to join me on the journey to experience the PUREJOY I guarantee you is only a breath away.
Kind Words From My Mamas
“Her kindness creates a safe space to venture out into new shifts ini perspectives, enlightening and bringing hope to my current situation. I am so thankful for our time together. My furrowed brow and foggy brain turned into a relaxed smile and clarity of mind by the end of it! Thank you so much.”