Often when trying to control behavior we forget to tune in to our need to connect from the heart. When we see, our children, doing something that causes us discomfort, we often
connect with our desire for them to change instead of our desire to connect with their need.
When we see start seeing behavior, as a communication we begin to see our child’s desire to connect in a new way. All behavior is trying to inform us of what we are connected to inside. If your child is struggling inside they may connect outside in a way that you may judge as misbehavior and therefore want to control.
Practice: Today when you reach out to your child, to connect, and they ignore you, or connect in a way that causes you discomfort………Pause……See if you can make a choice to connect with your heart, instead of demanding that they connect with you in the way you want before opening your heart.