When I became a mom I was driven by my fantasy- it was one that had been programmed into me from my culture, my family, and sources I deemed supportive toward keeping it alive. It took a lot of energy to work towards my fantasy. In my fantasy, I was perfect and my...
My girl, she’s 9, said to me the other night as we were winding down for bed… I’m sad- and I don’t know why. It struck me- that she was just willing to be with the feeling of sadness. I asked her- how is that for you? She said- sad. So we just sat there, with...
When do you feel most valued in your relationships? Is it when another makes space for your opinions, thoughts, ideas and truly shows interest in who you are? Often with our children we take up most of the space with our opinions, thoughts, ideas and wanting to be...
We came into the world helpless and totally dependent on our caregivers to attend to our young needs. Each time we reached out our precious young arms we were met with either a tender loving smile and our vulnerable needs were met, or our caregiver turned away...
In conscious parenting, the message we often hear is “connect, connect, connect”. And yet, rarely do we hear about the importance of “healthy separation” in our relationships with our children. Believing that “separation” is unhealthy leads to the engulfment of the...
I never thought of myself as an arrogant person. Honestly, I had quite the judgment about folks I perceived as arrogant. Then I became a parent! YIKES. Arrogance showed up quickly and furiously when my daughter didn’t behave in ways that supported my idea of being a...
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