SacredSeat

A 30-day journey towards more self-love

You’re in!

We’re so glad you have joined the SacredSeat Challenge-

your FREE course offering from Purejoy for purchasing the Happily Family conference! We know you have a lot of videos to watch in your purchase- did you see the interview with Leslie?

We’ve posted it here for your convenience.

The SacredSeat practice is an invitation

back toward the tender parts of you that are wanting to be seen, heard, and understood. It’s a counter-instinctual move to turn inward offering yourself kindness instead of controlling the external by managing your child’s behavior.

This 30-day challenge (a journey together) will begin on January 2nd and is designed to build a container for you, along with others, to make a habit of loving yourself first.

In the Purejoy view, the SacredSeat supports you to recognize everything you desire to give your child you can offer to yourself first. In this challenge, you’ll practice giving yourself the support you need to establish a daily practice of true self-care.

First steps while you wait to begin on January 2:

1. Watch Leslie’s interview (above) with Jason and Cecelia

2. Grab yourself a journal to use during the SacredSeat challenge and a candle too!

3. Read through the pre-course material below.

precourse – lesson 1

hows your heart?

We know you’re busy getting ready for those holiday festivities…

Take a moment, to pause and check in with your heart.

What do you notice?

Heavy, bright, curious, sad?

As a child, your tender heart was exposed to many situations in which you needed your caretaker to protect you from the intensity which was evoked in your tiny body.

Of course, you acted out your vulnerable feelings!

What else were you supposed to do? And yet the adults often misunderstood your actions and then labeled you as rude, mean or selfish.

Your tender heart couldn’t understand the words but felt the energetic force and withdrawal of those you were dependent on for love and approval.

Over time you learned to outcast the tender young feelings for a safer path which was good behavior to please the adults.

What a smart choice, and yet as an adult when those tender young feelings are evoked through your parenting you find yourself standing at a crossroad.

Will you continue down the conditioned road withdrawing love and approval from your child so they will behave?

Or will you turn toward your tender heart and see your child through the eyes of love.

It is a choice.

You have given yourself the gift of knowing your heart to begin the new year!

One thing I learned as a single mom is how important like-minded community is when parenting. I was doing it alone for 8 years and was exhausted when I moved to co-housing. Within 6 weeks mine and my daughter’s worlds were rocked. Even though I was hanging on as a parent I couldn’t believe what happened when I had support.

This is why I was inspired to create the SacredSeat challenge.

We will spend the first 30 days of the new year together as a community supporting each other in embracing all of who we are.

I find practicing together with a community to be one of the most SUPPORTIVE things in my parenting.

For some reason, there is a conditioned belief that we should miraculously KNOW how to be a “good” parent.

What we KNOW is what we experienced as a child or what we’ve read about parenting.

Knowledge is a beautiful thing except when it creates a barrier between your heart and your child’s.

I discovered practice is a must if we are going to re-enter a heart knowing.

precourse – lesson 2

what do you want?

I bet you’re over there making sure that everyone has just the right Christmas, yeah?

Or at least trying to!

I have a question- what do YOU want this holiday season? Have you considered yourself?

It is really challenging when the kiddos are so dependent , and traditions must be kept, but it’s important!

So often as a busy mama you get really focused on the external world, the environment around. You make sure the kids have all the food, clothes, lessons, entertainments and rides that they need and then often get overwhelmed and frustrated on an emotional level because no one is looking out to make sure you have what you need!

Sound familiar?

You came into the world helpless and totally dependent on your caregivers to attend to your young needs.

Each time you reached out your precious young arms you were met with either a tender loving smile and your vulnerable needs were met, or your caregiver turned away claiming you were too demanding and taught you to take care of yourself before you were ready.

When your fragile young heart felt the denial of your innocent needs you turned on yourself naively seeing your precious desires as wrong or bad.

As the toxic shame entered your immature emotional body every time you felt a need arising you formed a sense of yourself as somehow “not good enough” for you desperately needed those who you depended on to see you as “more than enough” just for being alive.

Little did you know your parents had been shamed for their unguarded desire and each time you held out our trusting arms you awakened a shame inside them which overtook their unbridled desire to meet you with unconditional love.

Now, it is your turn as a parent to awaken to your true desire to be seen and to see your child’s desires as vital as the breath you breathe. This season is FULL of desire!

You choose to open to their limitless dreams extending your hands offering to give what you can and support them to empower themselves to find the rest.

At Purejoy we practice by taking a look at what lives on the inside, in our internal experience. Have you done this? When you do? what do you notice? What lives inside of you? Go one step further and see what you want?

Leslie Potter

Leslie is the founder and creator of the Purejoy Parenting model. She is a trained therapist, parent coach, and mama extraordinaire.

She supports parents to explore and deepen their conscious parenting journey, supporting them in finding their internal strengths as a parent instead of using techniques to control their child’s behavior while opening hearts and minds to the power of healthy separation and connection.

She is the creator of “Parenting Paused” a parenting podcast sharing the journey of parents as they transform their relationships with their children.

Her greatest adventure is riding the waves of relationship alongside her amazing daughter while learning to “grow” herself up to be the parent she always wanted to be.

Erin Waters

Erin is a Purejoy Master Coach and has been welcoming babies to the world for the past 16 years as an Ob/Gyn. She is a Qi Gong enthusiast and currently training to be a teacher. Her heart blew wide open when she was introduced to the Purejoy model in 2020 and has been applying it to all aspects of her life since. She is now a certified Purejoy Parent Coach, Purejoy Group Coach, and Master Coach, and has loved every single Purejoy second.

Jessica Henderson

Jessica Henderson is a Purejoy Master Coach and Astrologer operating her own soul-based business providing her clients with support systems on their own journey of parenthood.

She was inspired to begin this work out of her own life experience. The roots go way back to when she was a tired and wiped-out Mama of 6 who dug deep to find a way to empower herself to find some authentic answers in life.

She offers fellow parents in the thick of raising their kids the opportunity to see themselves through a lens of loving-kindness- and to support that they know their own true nature trying to come forward in this lifetime. She uses the day-to-day stories of life with kiddos to reveal to moms and dads just how this experience of parenting can be so much more than a day-to-day grind- it can transform your life!

What you receive?

Online Course Material

The SacredSeat includes one lesson per day with audio, video and written material as well as journal prompts and ways you can connect with other parents like you!

Four Live Support Calls

The SacredSeat includes a live, interactive Zoom experience with your Purejoy Coaches weekly during the month of January.

Community Support and Guidance

The SacredSeat includes access to our private members-only support community, where you’ll connect with other parents who are consciously working to raise healthy kids and share your experiences (because it helps to know you’re not alone).

What does it look like?

First, we practice turning off the mental distractions that convince us that our children are somehow out to get us when they misbehave.

Secondly, we practice tuning into a deeper connection with our HEART energy over our conditioned mind.

The SacredSeat Challenge is an introduction to offering yourself a daily practice (can be just 5 minutes!) to quiet the distractions of your mind while making contact with your heart.

Everyday for 30 days:

🧡 Receive a practice to engage your HEART

🧡 Visit your SacredSeat to meet your tender feelings with kindness

🧡 Receive support to meet yourself and your child with an open heart

🧡 Receive community accountability to stay with your practice

🧡 Support from Purejoy Coaches with FOUR live calls

Ready to embrace your tender feelings?

Committing to a foundational practice is the greatest gift you’ll give yourself and your child in this new year.

Kind Words From Purejoy Mamas