Asking my daughter to do something, I noticed a strong reaction inside when she said she didn’t feel like doing it. Heat rose in my body, and I heard my inner voice saying, “I knew she wasn’t going to do that…she never does anything I want her to do.” In that moment, I felt my love for my daughter disintegrate, and I desperately wanted to cut out my high regard for her.
It’s challenging to confront our conditioned beliefs, especially when they are deeply rooted in our subconscious. As a parent, it’s natural to want your children to follow your instructions, but what happens when they don’t? Does it trigger feelings of powerlessness and frustration?
For me, it did. I had based my conscious parenting on the belief that saying “no” when you wanted to say “no” was the best course of action. However, I realized, in that moment when I heard no, that I had fallen back into the conditioned belief that others are responsible for my happiness. This realization, even though familiar is always a turning point from moving outward to inward.
As I examined my beliefs and behaviors, I discovered that the key to transforming my relationship with my daughter was to come back home, to take full responsibility for my own emotional responses. Instead of reacting to her behavior, I learned to be with my emotions in a new way in my SafeSeat, the foundational practice of Purejoy. This shift in perspective allowed me to approach the situation from a place of love and understanding, rather than frustration and anger.
This experience taught me that the work we do on ourselves has a ripple effect on those around us. By taking responsibility for our own emotional responses, we become better equipped to handle challenging situations with grace and compassion. We learn to approach others from a place of love and understanding, rather than judgment and frustration.
It’s not always easy to confront your conditioned beliefs, but it’s necessary if you want to live a fulfilling life. By examining your beliefs and behaviors, you are able to transform your relationships with yourself and those around you. You are able to learn to approach life from a place of love and understanding, rather than fear and judgment.
In addition to transforming your relationships with others, taking responsibility for your emotional responses also has a positive impact on your mental and emotional wellbeing. When you are able to approach challenging situations with grace and compassion, you reduce your stress levels and improve your overall sense of happiness and fulfillment.
This is why it’s essential to learn how to work with your emotional triggers. As humans, we all have emotional triggers from our childhood that are hard-wired into our brains. These triggers can cause us to react in ways that are not in our best interest, both personally and professionally.
The good news is that emotional triggers are workable, and you can learn to manage them in a way that supports your wellbeing. Download the free SafeSeat video series to begin your journey.