When you position as the victim, you might feel like you’re walking on eggshells with your children.
You aren’t able to take care of yourself and set healthy personal boundaries, because it feels so uncomfortable.
Your children are going to have feelings about your personal boundaries. They are not going to say, “OK, that’s great. I’m so glad you’re taking care of yourself.”
They are going to have to experience your limitations and they may feel like victims. You might then feel like you are the perpetrator.
If you can tolerate those feelings and recognize that they are just feelings, you can begin to ride the waves without getting lost in the swirl.
When this happens you will be able to show up as the healthy mature adult that you have always wanted to be for your child.
Listen to podcast Ep. 37 “Healthy Separation”