“Whatever they grow up to be, they are still our children, and the one most important of all the things we can give to them is unconditional love. Not a love that depends on anything at all except that they are our children.”

Rosaleen Dickson

What beautiful and challenging words to live by.  I know for myself it has taken me quite a long time to even understand what unconditional love is.  The only way I recognized love was if a condition came with it.  When I first experienced someone unconditionally loving me, I immediately thought, “what do they want in return?”  It is still hard for me to believe that love can be given without a price tag.

It has become so clear to me that when my daughter didn’t “act” the way I wanted her to I would use my love as a commodity, withdrawing it, to achieve compliance from her.  What a painful realization this was when I began to truly embrace my own abandonment of myself when it came to self-love.

Seeing the terror in my precious daugthers’ eyes, when I withdrew the love that she trusted would keep her safe, was so painful that I began to look inside to see what was going on with me.  When I  saw how I consistantly withdrew love from myself for not being the “perfect” child who could heal my mom’s wounds I slowly began to realize that this was where I must start the journey toward being the loving mom I wanted to be.

Even with all the years of psychotherapy and understanding in my awareness I had never experienced the magnitude of pain when I emotionally withdrew from  my own child.  The feeling was almost unbearable for me.  I knew that there had to be another way, and I became determined to find it.   So, my exploration truly began to find the meaning of unconditional love.

This site is dedicated to my continued search and longing to live and breathe the truth of who I truly am.  The journey is filled with my challenges as well as my joys and I look forward to sharing and learning together.