As parents, we all want what is best for our children. We want them to succeed, be happy, and grow up to be well-adjusted adults. However, our desire to help our children can sometimes be clouded by our own discomfort or anxiety. This is where discrimination in parenting comes in.
At Purejoy, we believe in the power of discrimination. Discrimination requires the practice of recognizing when you are present and fully engaged in the current moment, or projecting into the future or past. When you practice discrimination, the first step is to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment to see if they are relevant to the moment. Then you can make conscious decisions about how you respond to your children where they actually are in the present.
One key aspect of discrimination in parenting is understanding where your desire to help your children is coming from. Are you offering help because you genuinely want to support them, or because you are uncomfortable with how they are doing something? By practicing discrimination, you become more aware of your own emotions and motivations, and make better decisions about how to support your children instead of helping them out of feeling helpless.
Another important aspect of discrimination in parenting is recognizing if you are fully present with your children, or if you are trying to parent for the future. In today’s busy world, it can be easy to get caught up in your own thoughts and distractions about how you should be as a parent for your child to be successful in the future. However, when you are fully present with your children, you can connect with them on a deeper level and build stronger relationships.
At Purejoy, we believe that discrimination in parenting can have a profound impact on both parents and children. By practicing discrimination, you can become more aware of your emotions and motivations, and make conscious decisions about how to support your children. This can lead to happier, healthier families and stronger relationships.
So, if you are a parent who wants to support your child in reaching their full potential, consider incorporating discrimination into your parenting practice. By being present, aware, and non-judgmental, you can create a safe and supportive environment for you and your child to grow and thrive.